Housing hurting can be bittersweet but draining but a rush all at the same time. It’s like dating. You date around, see something that looks good on the outside but needs a lot of work on the inside. You have to bid to win the one you want. You know how they say love is a gamble, so is buying a house. Then eventually you believe that there can’t be anything else out there and end up settling. Or you find the one you love and don’t want to look any further. But just like dating; house hunting is worth it all. The risk, lessons, failures or/and accomplishments.
So, While looking for a house in my new state, I had a life, house epiphany.
Why am I a single mother of a preteen looking for a 4 bedroom house that’s at least 15,000 sq ft. with a two car garage? Living over my means with a one income household. I mean if your a single doctor, by all means go and get a 3,000 sq ft., home. But, I’m talking about me , who don’t make the high end of middle class income.
But why did I feel the need to want this huge house?
Because I wanted to take a picture in front of my huge house to show off my accomplishments. To have space for big house parties,cookouts and a guest room. I’ve seen so many other people live like this, so why not me. Why can’t I get me a big house because I work just as hard?
I googled the house that I was raised in and where my parents currently live. I stared at it for a long time. We didn’t have a huge house growing up. Out of the four children none of us could say that we had a bad childhood. So this made me think, It’s not the size of the home but the love that it holds. We grew up thinking our house was huge and we never complained. Most of my friends share a room with their sibling. It was normal to see these home because most home in the neighborhood look like mine.
Now, that I’m older , I believe that I must have a big house or question what did I really accomplish in life.
So, if you know me you know I love research. Its helps me debate with people and be less likely to lose. Yeah, I had to laugh at that to but it’s true. I went to research articles about why getting a smaller house is beneficial. I learned that I’ll save way more money by getting less square feet. This means less,cleaning, decorating, heating, cooling and maintaining. Shit even getting a roof fixed is cheaper, less roof!! And now more spending on things I actually want to do.
I changed the filter on my Trulia app to a mortgage I could afford and a square foot that will fill the love of my small family.
So,how important is more space to you?